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  • “Don't push me, 'cause I'm close to the edge. I'm trying not to lose my head. Ah-huh-huh-huh-huh” - Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five  #italian #uhoh #you #litthefuse #leo #passionateaf 👀🔥💣😂🤷🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️ #stubborn #sometimes #emogirl #anger #volcano #dontpushme #easygoing #until #youpressthebutton #feelallthefeels #empathproblems #introvertlife #boundaries #stilllearning #stillgrowing #oops #mybad #italiantemper
  • “Don't push me, 'cause I'm close to the edge. I'm trying not to lose my head. Ah-huh-huh-huh-huh” - Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five #italian #uhoh #you #litthefuse #leo #passionateaf 👀🔥💣😂🤷🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️ #stubborn #sometimes #emogirl #anger #volcano #dontpushme #easygoing #until #youpressthebutton #feelallthefeels #empathproblems #introvertlife #boundaries #stilllearning #stillgrowing #oops #mybad #italiantemper

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  • • Day 25 of Sexual Assault Awareness / Prevention Month (or Sexual Violence Prevention Month): •

How to be an ally - Respect the boundaries of victims and survivors.  We want to be able to give victims and survivors the space they need - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  As allies, it is important that we respect the kind of space they are seeking.  Victims and survivors have numerous rights that we need to acknowledge, including (but not limited to) being treated with respect; being able to say ‘no’ without any guilt or shame; putting themselves first before others; and being themselves.  It is also important to address that many victims and survivors who experienced violence have their own trauma.  As allies, we must not ask or force them to disclose details of what they went through; recalling accounts of the experience they went through can be retraumatizing and unpleasant.  Be mindful of asking victims and survivors if they are comfortable - if not, kindly ask them what they would need to feel comfortable and safe.  The other thing - and it may not always be easy to do this - is to be aware of any verbal and nonverbal cues they show that may indicate how comfortable they are or how much space they need.  They may show little to no eye-contact; they may be backing away from you or from a place; they may not be having a clear or full-on conversation with you; they may have a stiff body posture or clenched fists; they may show signs of nervousness or fear; or other signs.  Finally, ask!  Asking them things like, “Would you like to have a talk?" or "Would you like a hug?" are important to consider as you will know their capacity and to what extent they want you to be in close proximity to them. With hugging especially, some victims and survivors do not want to be touched - and we should respect that.  This is not a complete list.  There are more ways on how allies can be respectful about the boundaries victims and survivors have.  Feel free to comment down below what more ways we can consider and respect the boundaries of victims and survivors. 
#may #maysexualassaultawarenessmonth #sexualassaultawarenessmonth #sexualassault #letstalk
  • • Day 25 of Sexual Assault Awareness / Prevention Month (or Sexual Violence Prevention Month): •

    How to be an ally - Respect the boundaries of victims and survivors. We want to be able to give victims and survivors the space they need - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. As allies, it is important that we respect the kind of space they are seeking. Victims and survivors have numerous rights that we need to acknowledge, including (but not limited to) being treated with respect; being able to say ‘no’ without any guilt or shame; putting themselves first before others; and being themselves. It is also important to address that many victims and survivors who experienced violence have their own trauma. As allies, we must not ask or force them to disclose details of what they went through; recalling accounts of the experience they went through can be retraumatizing and unpleasant. Be mindful of asking victims and survivors if they are comfortable - if not, kindly ask them what they would need to feel comfortable and safe. The other thing - and it may not always be easy to do this - is to be aware of any verbal and nonverbal cues they show that may indicate how comfortable they are or how much space they need. They may show little to no eye-contact; they may be backing away from you or from a place; they may not be having a clear or full-on conversation with you; they may have a stiff body posture or clenched fists; they may show signs of nervousness or fear; or other signs. Finally, ask! Asking them things like, “Would you like to have a talk?" or "Would you like a hug?" are important to consider as you will know their capacity and to what extent they want you to be in close proximity to them. With hugging especially, some victims and survivors do not want to be touched - and we should respect that. This is not a complete list. There are more ways on how allies can be respectful about the boundaries victims and survivors have. Feel free to comment down below what more ways we can consider and respect the boundaries of victims and survivors.
    #may #maysexualassaultawarenessmonth #sexualassaultawarenessmonth #sexualassault #letstalk

  •  1  1  7 minutes ago
  • One of the hardest parts of healing and moving forward has been the memories of the past. Not the bad ones, but the good ones. It wasn’t always bad. There were great times. There were amazing times. ⁣
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I always felt like I couldn’t move forward without leaving those behind. And I didn’t want to.⁣
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I’m obsessed with pictures. They are my favorite possession. You hear of all the things someone would grab in an emergency, and my answer is always my pictures. Those moments in time captured forever. The love, the silliness, the grumpiness, the laughter. My favorite pictures aren’t the staged ones. They’re the ones that happen in the moment. Where you catch the true essence and all of the emotions.⁣
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My memories are much like my pictures. I don’t want to leave them behind.⁣
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As I was reading this morning, something stood out to me. ⁣
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𝗙𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀. ⁣
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We get to select our favorite frames, a quick snapshot of every event. We can relish in the pleasure of these moments and we can store them away. We can digest those moments and relive the joy. We get to carry them with us. 𝗪𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲. ⁣
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We don’t have to carry ALL the baggage to keep those favorite frames. We don’t have to let resentment and disappointment overshadow for fear of losing the good. And we don’t have to stay stuck for fear of losing them altogether.⁣
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This is about releasing the heavy, and taking a favorite frame of the good. Choosing what brings us joy and pleasure and what inspires us. Choosing what gets to go with us to the next season.⁣
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𝙄𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙧 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 🖤
  • One of the hardest parts of healing and moving forward has been the memories of the past. Not the bad ones, but the good ones. It wasn’t always bad. There were great times. There were amazing times. ⁣

    I always felt like I couldn’t move forward without leaving those behind. And I didn’t want to.⁣

    I’m obsessed with pictures. They are my favorite possession. You hear of all the things someone would grab in an emergency, and my answer is always my pictures. Those moments in time captured forever. The love, the silliness, the grumpiness, the laughter. My favorite pictures aren’t the staged ones. They’re the ones that happen in the moment. Where you catch the true essence and all of the emotions.⁣

    My memories are much like my pictures. I don’t want to leave them behind.⁣

    As I was reading this morning, something stood out to me. ⁣

    𝗙𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀. ⁣

    We get to select our favorite frames, a quick snapshot of every event. We can relish in the pleasure of these moments and we can store them away. We can digest those moments and relive the joy. We get to carry them with us. 𝗪𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲. ⁣

    We don’t have to carry ALL the baggage to keep those favorite frames. We don’t have to let resentment and disappointment overshadow for fear of losing the good. And we don’t have to stay stuck for fear of losing them altogether.⁣

    This is about releasing the heavy, and taking a favorite frame of the good. Choosing what brings us joy and pleasure and what inspires us. Choosing what gets to go with us to the next season.⁣

    𝙄𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙧 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 🖤

  •  2  1  9 minutes ago
  • Good evening beautiful ones. Loved ones typically feel an obligation to share there opinions involving personal choices. When done from a place of love their opinions should be respected. Just remember that their opinions aren't the law, not yours anyway. Your boundaries serve as the laws that should be abided by in order for you to engage in healthy relationships. Take some time to consider what you need and cannot receive from others. Set those boundaries and be proud that you chose you!

If you need assistance dm me. Remember you got this and I got you.

#coachjameka #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #boundaries #loveones #healthyrelationships #womenempowerment #womeninspiringwomen #youareyourpriority #inspiration #motivation  #moms #wives #sisters #girlfriends
  • Good evening beautiful ones. Loved ones typically feel an obligation to share there opinions involving personal choices. When done from a place of love their opinions should be respected. Just remember that their opinions aren't the law, not yours anyway. Your boundaries serve as the laws that should be abided by in order for you to engage in healthy relationships. Take some time to consider what you need and cannot receive from others. Set those boundaries and be proud that you chose you!

    If you need assistance dm me. Remember you got this and I got you.

    #coachjameka #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #boundaries #loveones #healthyrelationships #womenempowerment #womeninspiringwomen #youareyourpriority #inspiration #motivation #moms #wives #sisters #girlfriends

  •  3  0  20 minutes ago
  • ++SAVE THE DATE ++ 📞MAMA ZOOM CALL📞 ✨🔌TOPIC: ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES with AMY MORROW🔌✨ ✨Wonder how to cultivate healthy energetic boundaries for yourself around your kids? 
Super excited to have a chat with the incredible @amymorrowreiki Amy Morrow- reiki master, naturopath, intuitive energy healer, and mama of 2.🧖🏼 She has kindly offered to share her tips to reclaiming, replenishing and nurturing our energy (no matter what). ✨🔌Create the boundary (pun intended) to show up, and I promise you won’t regret it. 
WHEN? 
Seattle/LA: Tuesday May 26th @ 3PM
Calgary: Tuesday May 26th @ 4PM
NYC/ Miami: Tuesday May 26th @ 6PM
Lisbon: Tuesday May 26th @ 11PM
Amsterdam: Tuesday May 26th @ midnight
Bali: Wednesday May 27th @ 6AM
Tokyo: Wednesday May 27th @ 7AM
 Melbourne: Wednesday May 27th @ 8AM 
Meeting ID: 843 4630 0241
Password: 11

#blackandwhite #healthy #energetic #boundaries #🖤#🤍
  • ++SAVE THE DATE ++ 📞MAMA ZOOM CALL📞 ✨🔌TOPIC: ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES with AMY MORROW🔌✨ ✨Wonder how to cultivate healthy energetic boundaries for yourself around your kids?
    Super excited to have a chat with the incredible @amymorrowreiki Amy Morrow- reiki master, naturopath, intuitive energy healer, and mama of 2.🧖🏼 She has kindly offered to share her tips to reclaiming, replenishing and nurturing our energy (no matter what). ✨🔌Create the boundary (pun intended) to show up, and I promise you won’t regret it.
    WHEN?
    Seattle/LA: Tuesday May 26th @ 3PM
    Calgary: Tuesday May 26th @ 4PM
    NYC/ Miami: Tuesday May 26th @ 6PM
    Lisbon: Tuesday May 26th @ 11PM
    Amsterdam: Tuesday May 26th @ midnight
    Bali: Wednesday May 27th @ 6AM
    Tokyo: Wednesday May 27th @ 7AM
    Melbourne: Wednesday May 27th @ 8AM
    Meeting ID: 843 4630 0241
    Password: 11

    #blackandwhite #healthy #energetic #boundaries #🖤#🤍

  •  5  2  25 minutes ago
  • Masturbation Monday in Masturbation May. What a day.

Have you been exploring new ways to enjoy pleasure. Toys like the satisyer pro 2 can bring a unique pressure wave sensation to your clitoris! This fun water proof toy can be found by clicking the link in bio.

Side note: It’s okay if you’re feeling as horny this season! Even though it’s masturbation may it isn’t a cult :) Pleasure is meant to be had at your own pace. If today isn’t the day that’s okay.
  • Masturbation Monday in Masturbation May. What a day.

    Have you been exploring new ways to enjoy pleasure. Toys like the satisyer pro 2 can bring a unique pressure wave sensation to your clitoris! This fun water proof toy can be found by clicking the link in bio.

    Side note: It’s okay if you’re feeling as horny this season! Even though it’s masturbation may it isn’t a cult :) Pleasure is meant to be had at your own pace. If today isn’t the day that’s okay.

  •  6  1  26 minutes ago
  • “Blame is a tendency in ego to use other people as excuses for the aspects of our journey that we do not know how to face, process, or heal. When blame is cast in any direction, the beauty of our soul’s evolution is paused, as we engage in the overwhelming torment of internal worldly conflict. Whenever we blame, we are choosing to fight or doubt the perfection of our journey, instead of allowing it to inspire deeper growth.” @mattkahn1
  • “Blame is a tendency in ego to use other people as excuses for the aspects of our journey that we do not know how to face, process, or heal. When blame is cast in any direction, the beauty of our soul’s evolution is paused, as we engage in the overwhelming torment of internal worldly conflict. Whenever we blame, we are choosing to fight or doubt the perfection of our journey, instead of allowing it to inspire deeper growth.” @mattkahn1

  •  5  1  28 minutes ago
  • Having quite the conversation(s) with a being placed to fit in place is something that you must be grateful for. Yester-year's day was a day. Finding yourself where lights are no longer lights but beams is a thing that only few can describe via experience. Once there is realization of squares not fitting within circles, you'll realize the circle because you are also a circle. What doesnt fit should never be forced, that goes for all additions to your physical life. Many often want something so selfishly that they don't realize that shapes don't look alike. Gratefulness for the additions that you spiritually know are permanent, they teach you about yourself, they're patient with you, they are you, they mend you. Reciprocity & respect are crucial & performed (on both ends). Organic is the fruit that still has bugs amongst it...for the inorganic, life does not exist. It wears the mask of appeal & attraction but when you bite into it, it slowly poisons. Pick your fruit wisely...better yet, grow your own, it taste better that way.

#queen #spirit #thoughts #being #letgo
#release #control #mind #mental #poetry
#motivated #thankyou #sapio #evolution #soulawakening #love #blacklove  #blackexcellence #blackqueen#powerful #boundaries #selfrespect  #energy #bestill #purpose #open #spiritspeaks #life #experiences #oilinthepetals
  • Having quite the conversation(s) with a being placed to fit in place is something that you must be grateful for. Yester-year's day was a day. Finding yourself where lights are no longer lights but beams is a thing that only few can describe via experience. Once there is realization of squares not fitting within circles, you'll realize the circle because you are also a circle. What doesnt fit should never be forced, that goes for all additions to your physical life. Many often want something so selfishly that they don't realize that shapes don't look alike. Gratefulness for the additions that you spiritually know are permanent, they teach you about yourself, they're patient with you, they are you, they mend you. Reciprocity & respect are crucial & performed (on both ends). Organic is the fruit that still has bugs amongst it...for the inorganic, life does not exist. It wears the mask of appeal & attraction but when you bite into it, it slowly poisons. Pick your fruit wisely...better yet, grow your own, it taste better that way.

    #queen #spirit #thoughts #being #letgo
    #release #control #mind #mental #poetry
    #motivated #thankyou #sapio #evolution #soulawakening #love #blacklove #blackexcellence #blackqueen#powerful #boundaries #selfrespect #energy #bestill #purpose #open #spiritspeaks #life #experiences #oilinthepetals

  •  29  3  29 minutes ago
  • Did you have to lose someone to love YOU?
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Have you been publicly shamed for being a ‘good girl’?
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Were you ever denied the right to express your identity?
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Did you go through a messy business story and a messy love break-up all AT ONCE?
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We got you, girl, we’ve been there too and so have these queens.
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Being a Cosmic Girl isn’t all about being magical and perfect - it’s actually all about embracing those moments of vulnerability that helped you grow and level up 🏆
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That’s why Selena, TayTay, RuPaul, and Chiara are part of our #CosmicGirlGang 💫
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Tag a friend who is doing SO MUCH BETTER after a break-up.
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#cosmicgirl #wholeness #iamcosmic  #allofme #ispeakcosmic #girlsruletheworld #iamshe #cosmicglow #LevelUp #acceptance #boundaries
  • Did you have to lose someone to love YOU?
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    Have you been publicly shamed for being a ‘good girl’?
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    Were you ever denied the right to express your identity?
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    Did you go through a messy business story and a messy love break-up all AT ONCE?
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    We got you, girl, we’ve been there too and so have these queens.
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    Being a Cosmic Girl isn’t all about being magical and perfect - it’s actually all about embracing those moments of vulnerability that helped you grow and level up 🏆
    .
    That’s why Selena, TayTay, RuPaul, and Chiara are part of our #CosmicGirlGang 💫
    .
    Tag a friend who is doing SO MUCH BETTER after a break-up.
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    #cosmicgirl #wholeness #iamcosmic #allofme #ispeakcosmic #girlsruletheworld #iamshe #cosmicglow #LevelUp #acceptance #boundaries

  •  9  0  30 minutes ago
  • There are many things that can challenge your boundaries. Such as:
• Mood
• Stress • Other People/ bullies/ relationships
• The Past
• Expectations (yours or others)

Having boundaries is so important as it not only protects you from what’s coming in but it also protects you from what you’re giving out. 
Do you know what your boundary looks like? There are three types of boundaries:
• Rigid
• Weak
• Healthy

Swipe across the photos and see the visual representation of each.

I love working with boundaries with my clients as the insights they gain and the transformation they embark on at their own pace is simply priceless and empowering.

So, if you haven’t visited what your boundary looks like lately, maybe this is a good time to say, ‘Hello’ to your boundaries 👋🏼😊 What does it look like or what do you want it to look like? I would love to know 💛

#sociallyemchallenge 
#boundaries #healthyboundaries 
#arttherapy
  • There are many things that can challenge your boundaries. Such as:
    • Mood
    • Stress • Other People/ bullies/ relationships
    • The Past
    • Expectations (yours or others)

    Having boundaries is so important as it not only protects you from what’s coming in but it also protects you from what you’re giving out.
    Do you know what your boundary looks like? There are three types of boundaries:
    • Rigid
    • Weak
    • Healthy

    Swipe across the photos and see the visual representation of each.

    I love working with boundaries with my clients as the insights they gain and the transformation they embark on at their own pace is simply priceless and empowering.

    So, if you haven’t visited what your boundary looks like lately, maybe this is a good time to say, ‘Hello’ to your boundaries 👋🏼😊 What does it look like or what do you want it to look like? I would love to know 💛

    #sociallyemchallenge
    #boundaries #healthyboundaries
    #arttherapy

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Where my people pleasers at? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Time to blow the need to please up! ❤️
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    Time to blow the need to please up! ❤️

  •  11  1  32 minutes ago
  • Not sure I'm moving forward some days but the couch sure feels good afterwards... until the next quake. Kind of sums up the last year. Better things coming for all I hope. #love #family #hope #boundaries #wellness
  • Not sure I'm moving forward some days but the couch sure feels good afterwards... until the next quake. Kind of sums up the last year. Better things coming for all I hope. #love #family #hope #boundaries #wellness

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  • Have you ever asked yourself “Who Am I?” || Let’s face it, it is easy to get caught up in thoughts and questions of who we truly are. What defines us? In any kind of relationship (peers, work, friends, family, partnerships) we can easily get entangled in our sense of self, and codependency can make its way through the cracks if we we aren’t careful. || For a moment of my life, I literally put my identity in romantic relationships and left me co-dependent most of the time. It was not until I did my own “soul searching” that I was able to break free of the codependent mentality and discover my authentic self. It’s so liberating! 🧠🩺🌱
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Which of these two areas do you identify most with? (Answer to yourself).
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#whoami #selfdiscovery #choosejoy #giveyourselfgrace #authenticself #boundaries #selfidentity #selfcompassion ##independent #codependency #codependentnomore #healthymind #striving #growing #becoming #evolving #miamimentalhealth #miami #wellness #strivewithesther
  • Have you ever asked yourself “Who Am I?” || Let’s face it, it is easy to get caught up in thoughts and questions of who we truly are. What defines us? In any kind of relationship (peers, work, friends, family, partnerships) we can easily get entangled in our sense of self, and codependency can make its way through the cracks if we we aren’t careful. || For a moment of my life, I literally put my identity in romantic relationships and left me co-dependent most of the time. It was not until I did my own “soul searching” that I was able to break free of the codependent mentality and discover my authentic self. It’s so liberating! 🧠🩺🌱
    _______________________________________
    Which of these two areas do you identify most with? (Answer to yourself).
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    #whoami #selfdiscovery #choosejoy #giveyourselfgrace #authenticself #boundaries #selfidentity #selfcompassion # #independent #codependency #codependentnomore #healthymind #striving #growing #becoming #evolving #miamimentalhealth #miami #wellness #strivewithesther

  •  9  4  40 minutes ago
  • Men,

We have to learn to #recognize that our partners feel #safe when there is a #strong expression of #Masculinity radiating from our #core .

This is different for every man, we each have our own twist to the essence of being Masculine by upholding the values that are important to who we are.

When you first enter a #relationship you’re all in. 
You are the #man of the hour.
You are centered in your Masculine energy, this #unstoppable force that wants to embrace all of the possibilities life has to offer.

This is what she found attractive, this is what sparked her feminine flame.

You were confident.
You knew when to say no.
You knew when to say go.
You were a man taking action.

Fast Forward.

It’s been some time now.
You still love her very much, like the day you met.
She seems distant.
Your intimate life has withered.
You feel like she doesn’t even want to be around you.

It can be so damn frustrating I know, and your willingness to do what it takes to keep what you have is met with the confusion of how to just do that.

You ask yourself “WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?”. Somewhere along the path you strayed from what was most important.

You gave up your power for the sake of #responsibility and the commitment that you made to your #woman .

The #nobility in this is understood.

You’ve set aside one #important factor.

The responsibility and commitment to what you want out of life.

Your goals.
Your dreams.
Your own mental and physical health.
Your very connection to what you perceive as God or #Creation .

All of the things that make you, well, you.

It can all be turned around.

It’s ok to set #respectable #boundaries that are molded by your core #values .

Gain #confidence again.
Gain the #respect you deserve.
Gain a deeper intimate #connection.
#Gain all of the benefits of a mature and #meaningful relationship.
You can do this Brotha.
Pull all of the things you want out of life forward. The #time is now, She isn’t going to wait around forever.
 When she says she’s done it’s too late.

The 12 week Man in Action protocol is uniquely designed to transform the man who feels lost and at his wits end of what to do into the man that burns his own trails.
  • Men,

    We have to learn to #recognize that our partners feel #safe when there is a #strong expression of #Masculinity radiating from our #core .

    This is different for every man, we each have our own twist to the essence of being Masculine by upholding the values that are important to who we are.

    When you first enter a #relationship you’re all in.
    You are the #man of the hour.
    You are centered in your Masculine energy, this #unstoppable force that wants to embrace all of the possibilities life has to offer.

    This is what she found attractive, this is what sparked her feminine flame.

    You were confident.
    You knew when to say no.
    You knew when to say go.
    You were a man taking action.

    Fast Forward.

    It’s been some time now.
    You still love her very much, like the day you met.
    She seems distant.
    Your intimate life has withered.
    You feel like she doesn’t even want to be around you.

    It can be so damn frustrating I know, and your willingness to do what it takes to keep what you have is met with the confusion of how to just do that.

    You ask yourself “WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?”. Somewhere along the path you strayed from what was most important.

    You gave up your power for the sake of #responsibility and the commitment that you made to your #woman .

    The #nobility in this is understood.

    You’ve set aside one #important factor.

    The responsibility and commitment to what you want out of life.

    Your goals.
    Your dreams.
    Your own mental and physical health.
    Your very connection to what you perceive as God or #Creation .

    All of the things that make you, well, you.

    It can all be turned around.

    It’s ok to set #respectable #boundaries that are molded by your core #values .

    Gain #confidence again.
    Gain the #respect you deserve.
    Gain a deeper intimate #connection.
    #Gain all of the benefits of a mature and #meaningful relationship.
    You can do this Brotha.
    Pull all of the things you want out of life forward. The #time is now, She isn’t going to wait around forever.
    When she says she’s done it’s too late.

    The 12 week Man in Action protocol is uniquely designed to transform the man who feels lost and at his wits end of what to do into the man that burns his own trails.

  •  1  0  43 minutes ago
  • Here’s the thing when you’re on a spiritual path of growth & truth: not everyone you love is going to come with you. It might take some time to accept, and there will likely be grief involved because it’s a loss of sorts, but you will get there. Codependent conditioning will tell you to try harder and drag them along cause you know a way out of their suffering. It comes from a good place, but it’s futile.
Your own fulfillment & self-actualization is truly the best gift you could give anyone. Spend your time doing what fills you up & sets your soul on fire - the ones who want to join you, will.
Want individualized support in this? PM me for info on my 1:1 Return to Self program.
  • Here’s the thing when you’re on a spiritual path of growth & truth: not everyone you love is going to come with you. It might take some time to accept, and there will likely be grief involved because it’s a loss of sorts, but you will get there. Codependent conditioning will tell you to try harder and drag them along cause you know a way out of their suffering. It comes from a good place, but it’s futile.
    Your own fulfillment & self-actualization is truly the best gift you could give anyone. Spend your time doing what fills you up & sets your soul on fire - the ones who want to join you, will.
    Want individualized support in this? PM me for info on my 1:1 Return to Self program.

  •  261  3  48 minutes ago
  • The more delayed gratification, the greater the long-term pleasure & contentment: baking a loaf of sourdough bread, building a house, working on a relationship, learning a language, or playing hockey. Overindulging in hockey isn’t much of a problem. I’ve never had to treat it. The more an activity satisfies instant gratification, the more addictive it can be: drug dependence, compulsive shopping, compulsive sex, or pathological gambling. They bring pain. Long-term pleasure or short-term pleasure. Which one will you choose?

#mentalhealth #psychology #psychiatry #mentalillness #wellness #selfhelp  #personalgowth #relaxation #boundaries #emotions #mentalhealthawareness #selfimprovement #arguing #speakers #worklifebalance #construction #mentalhealthspeakers #calm #mentalhealthtips #mindfulness #relationships #delayedgratification #personality #hockey  #covid19  #coronavirus #selfisolation #bread #sourdough #sourdoughbread
  • The more delayed gratification, the greater the long-term pleasure & contentment: baking a loaf of sourdough bread, building a house, working on a relationship, learning a language, or playing hockey. Overindulging in hockey isn’t much of a problem. I’ve never had to treat it. The more an activity satisfies instant gratification, the more addictive it can be: drug dependence, compulsive shopping, compulsive sex, or pathological gambling. They bring pain. Long-term pleasure or short-term pleasure. Which one will you choose?

    #mentalhealth #psychology #psychiatry #mentalillness #wellness #selfhelp #personalgowth #relaxation #boundaries #emotions #mentalhealthawareness #selfimprovement #arguing #speakers #worklifebalance #construction #mentalhealthspeakers #calm #mentalhealthtips #mindfulness #relationships #delayedgratification #personality #hockey #covid19 #coronavirus #selfisolation #bread #sourdough #sourdoughbread

  •  8  0  49 minutes ago
  • Each time I listen, I’ve ordered the book of every author that Brene Brown has asked to speak. Listening to Chris Heuertz explain the Enneagram roped me back in deep. I had taken free tests before and always had the same close top three. I had already decided exactly which type I did not want to be. Needing the most official ruling, I paid the nine dollars for it to tell me my type is codependency. Insert eye roll. I had spent the last year laughing at Type 2 memes, convinced the dark romance and art of Type 4s spoke more true to me. 
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The helpers, the givers, the martyrs. Desperate for love, the patron saints of needy. Put others first, fix others, save others, give and give and never take. A few years back I could see the draw of it, I thought those were all things good people were suppose to do. I had never heard a 2 described in a way that didn’t make me feel weak.Having had my eyes opened to the codependent light, nothing about being a 2 felt like a strength.  ______________________________________________________

It wasn’t until I stumbled upon a video compilation with references to Lord of the Rings that I felt actually seen. Seeing there is power in understanding what other people need. The ability to intuitively feel and see what others can’t see. I had only seen this as a way to manipulate others into loving me, but our entire society operates on businesses who depend on understanding what people need and predicting what they will need. “Understanding what people need is the same thing as power.” Explaining how 2s aren’t in this for a give and take, its the idea of building, of belonging, of finding your people and having a place. _____________________________________________________

The core need of being needed is rooted in the core fear of being unloved. The two’s greatest weakness is also its greatest strength.  _____________________________________________________  #thesacredpause ⏸📝
  • Each time I listen, I’ve ordered the book of every author that Brene Brown has asked to speak. Listening to Chris Heuertz explain the Enneagram roped me back in deep. I had taken free tests before and always had the same close top three. I had already decided exactly which type I did not want to be. Needing the most official ruling, I paid the nine dollars for it to tell me my type is codependency. Insert eye roll. I had spent the last year laughing at Type 2 memes, convinced the dark romance and art of Type 4s spoke more true to me.
    ______________________________________________________

    The helpers, the givers, the martyrs. Desperate for love, the patron saints of needy. Put others first, fix others, save others, give and give and never take. A few years back I could see the draw of it, I thought those were all things good people were suppose to do. I had never heard a 2 described in a way that didn’t make me feel weak.Having had my eyes opened to the codependent light, nothing about being a 2 felt like a strength. ______________________________________________________

    It wasn’t until I stumbled upon a video compilation with references to Lord of the Rings that I felt actually seen. Seeing there is power in understanding what other people need. The ability to intuitively feel and see what others can’t see. I had only seen this as a way to manipulate others into loving me, but our entire society operates on businesses who depend on understanding what people need and predicting what they will need. “Understanding what people need is the same thing as power.” Explaining how 2s aren’t in this for a give and take, its the idea of building, of belonging, of finding your people and having a place. _____________________________________________________

    The core need of being needed is rooted in the core fear of being unloved. The two’s greatest weakness is also its greatest strength. _____________________________________________________ #thesacredpause ⏸📝

  •  10  1  1 hour ago
  • A recent post by @melanietoniaevans 💜 just love her 🙏 About a year into my recovery process, this woman's work provided a light that helped me through some dark, confusing times. She has a very spiritual take on recovery and has a very calming, soothing presence 💜 This quote here couldn't be more true... Life is more peaceful when you rid yourself of chaos and crazymaking brought on by others. .
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What resonated with me about this quote is how I think a major part of healing from traumas is reinventing yourself through the deep work you do on yourself to rebuild yourself. Part of that journey for me was awakening to the reality of how many unhealthy individuals I actually had allowed in my life...people who I had in my life for years that I thought cared about me and were supporting me were actually hindering my recovery and even taking advantage of me. I won't go into detail of the serious violations I ended up experiencing but I will say I cut them off because I had no other choice. It was sad but more than that it brought peace to my soul. My healing increased tremendously when these people were out of my life. I can't make anybody acknowledge my boundaries or respect who I am, but I certainly won't let them push back and start a war with me bc they don't like it. #lifeisajourney #respect #boundaries #peace #selfcare #selflove #women #strongwomen #overcomer #yourestrongerthanyouthink #empowerment #resilience #positivevibes #healing #womensupportingwomen #quoteoftheday #inspirationalquotes #toxicpeople #narcissists #healingfromabuse #healingfromtrauma #healingtrauma #abuserecovery #abuseawareness
  • A recent post by @melanietoniaevans 💜 just love her 🙏 About a year into my recovery process, this woman's work provided a light that helped me through some dark, confusing times. She has a very spiritual take on recovery and has a very calming, soothing presence 💜 This quote here couldn't be more true... Life is more peaceful when you rid yourself of chaos and crazymaking brought on by others. .
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    What resonated with me about this quote is how I think a major part of healing from traumas is reinventing yourself through the deep work you do on yourself to rebuild yourself. Part of that journey for me was awakening to the reality of how many unhealthy individuals I actually had allowed in my life...people who I had in my life for years that I thought cared about me and were supporting me were actually hindering my recovery and even taking advantage of me. I won't go into detail of the serious violations I ended up experiencing but I will say I cut them off because I had no other choice. It was sad but more than that it brought peace to my soul. My healing increased tremendously when these people were out of my life. I can't make anybody acknowledge my boundaries or respect who I am, but I certainly won't let them push back and start a war with me bc they don't like it. #lifeisajourney #respect #boundaries #peace #selfcare #selflove #women #strongwomen #overcomer #yourestrongerthanyouthink #empowerment #resilience #positivevibes #healing #womensupportingwomen #quoteoftheday #inspirationalquotes #toxicpeople #narcissists #healingfromabuse #healingfromtrauma #healingtrauma #abuserecovery #abuseawareness

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  • Back in winter I was Friend Dating someone. Friend dating is what I call it when you first start hanging out with someone and evaluating whether you want it to become an actual friendship or not. We were at the gym working out together and she started sh*t talking our neighbor ’Gloria’. It made me really uncomfortable because I don’t like that kind of energy and don’t want to participate. I feel like it was visible through my body language but she kept going and then looked at me to join in the bashing and to agree with her. I just said “Emily (let’s call her Emily) that’s kind of mean…..” Then she got really triggered 😤and started saying that I was judging her etc. I said “it’s fine, I just don’t feel comfortable joining in that sort of thing.” Later that night we were eating and she said “I’m not going to dwell on ‘Gloria’ anymore she’s not worth it” and she didn’t really talk about it anymore after I put up that boundary. #healing #boundaries #healthyboundaries #psychology #psychologyfacts #health #healthylifestyle #healthyliving #healthy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #awareness #awakening #spiritualawakening #friends #friendship #relationships #5d
  • Back in winter I was Friend Dating someone. Friend dating is what I call it when you first start hanging out with someone and evaluating whether you want it to become an actual friendship or not. We were at the gym working out together and she started sh*t talking our neighbor ’Gloria’. It made me really uncomfortable because I don’t like that kind of energy and don’t want to participate. I feel like it was visible through my body language but she kept going and then looked at me to join in the bashing and to agree with her. I just said “Emily (let’s call her Emily) that’s kind of mean…..” Then she got really triggered 😤and started saying that I was judging her etc. I said “it’s fine, I just don’t feel comfortable joining in that sort of thing.” Later that night we were eating and she said “I’m not going to dwell on ‘Gloria’ anymore she’s not worth it” and she didn’t really talk about it anymore after I put up that boundary. #healing #boundaries #healthyboundaries #psychology #psychologyfacts #health #healthylifestyle #healthyliving #healthy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #awareness #awakening #spiritualawakening #friends #friendship #relationships #5d

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  • 💥𝗕𝗶𝗴 𝗔𝘀𝘀 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆💥⁣
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I signed up for a boundaries challenge last week. 💛⁣
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The first day of the challenge talked about digital boundaries and how social media consumes our lives. 😳⁣
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I like many business owners spend time online. 👩‍💻⁣
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I shut off my notifications and spent some quality time behind the scenes and offline today. 💋⁣
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It was very powerful and a big ass change for a normal Monday. ⁣
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I feel like this has just geared me in the right direction for my goals this week. 
What boundaries do you enjoy placing in your schedule? ⬇️⁣
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  • 💥𝗕𝗶𝗴 𝗔𝘀𝘀 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆💥⁣

    I signed up for a boundaries challenge last week. 💛⁣

    The first day of the challenge talked about digital boundaries and how social media consumes our lives. 😳⁣

    I like many business owners spend time online. 👩‍💻⁣

    I shut off my notifications and spent some quality time behind the scenes and offline today. 💋⁣

    It was very powerful and a big ass change for a normal Monday. ⁣

    I feel like this has just geared me in the right direction for my goals this week.
    What boundaries do you enjoy placing in your schedule? ⬇️⁣


  •  4  8  1 hour ago
  • Sometimes I feel emotional on my coaching calls with women in my programs, because they’re experiencing horrible and cruel  treatment from someone they just want to love them.

I coached one gorgeous soul who was feeling like (since recently leaving her relationship) she has nothing to offer.

And I told her to ask herself, when she gets into this downward spiral space, who’s voice she’s hearing.

Every single woman I’ve ever coached who is experiencing covert narcissistic abuse has the BIGGEST heart and soul.

Seriously, amazing souls that deserve so much more.

They’re amazing and yet they don’t SEE it.

And they know as much as I hold space for them, victim mentality is not allowed.

The truth is you’ve chosen this relationship, and to change the situation, you must now CHOOSE what to do about it.

And it starts within you.

If you’re ready for a step by step process to guide you from confusion to having a clear plan to move forward with, you can purchase my End The Cycle course at the link in my bio 👆🏻👆🏻
  • Sometimes I feel emotional on my coaching calls with women in my programs, because they’re experiencing horrible and cruel treatment from someone they just want to love them.

    I coached one gorgeous soul who was feeling like (since recently leaving her relationship) she has nothing to offer.

    And I told her to ask herself, when she gets into this downward spiral space, who’s voice she’s hearing.

    Every single woman I’ve ever coached who is experiencing covert narcissistic abuse has the BIGGEST heart and soul.

    Seriously, amazing souls that deserve so much more.

    They’re amazing and yet they don’t SEE it.

    And they know as much as I hold space for them, victim mentality is not allowed.

    The truth is you’ve chosen this relationship, and to change the situation, you must now CHOOSE what to do about it.

    And it starts within you.

    If you’re ready for a step by step process to guide you from confusion to having a clear plan to move forward with, you can purchase my End The Cycle course at the link in my bio 👆🏻👆🏻

  •  97  2  1 hour ago
  • Do you have a list of Everyday Non-negotiables? This is a personal list of things that you can promise to do for yourself EVERYDAY. This list isn’t intended to be stressful. This list should contain things that are beneficial to YOU and allow you to start becoming the best version of yourself. What if I told you that creating this list is going to help improve your overall quality of life? Who doesn’t want that!? I wrote a list of daily non-negotiables for myself a couple of months after Charlie was born. It was one of the best things I’ve done for myself since becoming a Mum. As he grows older and our daily rhythm is shifting, I knew it was important for me to revisit my list and adjust it to my ever so quickly changing lifestyle. Charlie naps for 45 minutes in the mornings and roughly an hour and a half during the afternoon. That first nap is where some of my Non-negotiables come into practice. My list contains things that I LOVE to do and that will help me continue to grow into the best version of myself. My list is simple; - Apply and diffuse essential oils - Smudging. I smudge my mind to think good thoughts, my mouth to speak good & kind words, my ears to hear good and kind things, my whole body to welcome positive energy into my life and to connect with ancestral wisdom so that source can flow through me. - Oracle cards for daily guidance. - Manifesting through affirmations. Journaling and speaking aloud my goals and desires for myself, my life and my business. This is very powerful for me. - Take my vitamins. 
Throughout the day I complete the following things on my non-negotiable list;
- Eat nourishing meals
- Eat mindfully - Give blessings & thanks to the Earth for providing me with so much goodness. - Hydrate - Mindful belly breathing x 3 
Not only is it extremely beneficial for me, it’s entirely PRACTICAL for my lifestyle. Some days I don’t get to meditate and that’s OKAY. I choose different ways to be here, to be present and to show gratitude by giving thanks for my life. What is ONE thing you can practically adapt to? What is ONE thing that you will decide is an EVERYDAY NON-NEGOTIABLE? Tell me in the comments below. I’d love to know!
  • Do you have a list of Everyday Non-negotiables? This is a personal list of things that you can promise to do for yourself EVERYDAY. This list isn’t intended to be stressful. This list should contain things that are beneficial to YOU and allow you to start becoming the best version of yourself. What if I told you that creating this list is going to help improve your overall quality of life? Who doesn’t want that!? I wrote a list of daily non-negotiables for myself a couple of months after Charlie was born. It was one of the best things I’ve done for myself since becoming a Mum. As he grows older and our daily rhythm is shifting, I knew it was important for me to revisit my list and adjust it to my ever so quickly changing lifestyle. Charlie naps for 45 minutes in the mornings and roughly an hour and a half during the afternoon. That first nap is where some of my Non-negotiables come into practice. My list contains things that I LOVE to do and that will help me continue to grow into the best version of myself. My list is simple; - Apply and diffuse essential oils - Smudging. I smudge my mind to think good thoughts, my mouth to speak good & kind words, my ears to hear good and kind things, my whole body to welcome positive energy into my life and to connect with ancestral wisdom so that source can flow through me. - Oracle cards for daily guidance. - Manifesting through affirmations. Journaling and speaking aloud my goals and desires for myself, my life and my business. This is very powerful for me. - Take my vitamins.
    Throughout the day I complete the following things on my non-negotiable list;
    - Eat nourishing meals
    - Eat mindfully - Give blessings & thanks to the Earth for providing me with so much goodness. - Hydrate - Mindful belly breathing x 3
    Not only is it extremely beneficial for me, it’s entirely PRACTICAL for my lifestyle. Some days I don’t get to meditate and that’s OKAY. I choose different ways to be here, to be present and to show gratitude by giving thanks for my life. What is ONE thing you can practically adapt to? What is ONE thing that you will decide is an EVERYDAY NON-NEGOTIABLE? Tell me in the comments below. I’d love to know!

  •  8  2  1 hour ago
  • Just because you are not jumping to help everyone with everything doesn't mean you are not a good person...⁣
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You can still say no and be good at what you do. We all need to set boundaries and know that we never should have to prove how good we are...⁣
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#boundaries #knowyourworth #rsgcommunity⁣
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⁣  #teachersofig #teachers #teacherlife #teachersofthegram #teachersofinsta #tftpickme #teachersengaging #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #iteachtoo #iteach #iteachmiddleschool
#iteachsped #iteachspedtoo #spedteacher #spedclassroom#specialeducation #weteachsped #teachloveautism #iteachautism #autismclassroom #autismteacher
  • Just because you are not jumping to help everyone with everything doesn't mean you are not a good person...⁣

    You can still say no and be good at what you do. We all need to set boundaries and know that we never should have to prove how good we are...⁣


    #boundaries #knowyourworth #rsgcommunity

    #teachersofig #teachers #teacherlife #teachersofthegram #teachersofinsta #tftpickme #teachersengaging #teachersofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #iteachtoo #iteach #iteachmiddleschool
    #iteachsped #iteachspedtoo #spedteacher #spedclassroom#specialeducation #weteachsped #teachloveautism #iteachautism #autismclassroom #autismteacher

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Top #boundaries Posts

  • For those of you who’ve been following for a while, you know I’ve been distanced from my family. I was on a deep healing journey + for many reasons, I needed space away from those dynamics.

This was incredibly difficult for everyone involved. Choosing myself + honoring my own needs brought up a ton of my “selfish” programming. It felt like a betrayal + freedom at the same time.

The past few months, we’ve been reconnecting. All in a space of family therapy. It’s been a space to begin re-creating the relationship. A space that I’m aware not everyone has access to, so I wanted to create this post to share my own process.

As I do this work, I’m seeing just how strong my patterns are. I’m seeing just how much of my conditioning is to smile + nod. To tend to (most of all) my mothers feelings. Going slowly + observing is key as the pull to the familiar is very real.

When healing, all of our relationships shift + change. We are more aware of our needs, we begin to prioritize self care. We say “no” rather than engaging in chronic people pleasing. This will cause pain because who we are as a human has shifted. It’s to be expected. People know us one way + expect us to engage in the ways that we always have.

Things to remember has you re-create the dynamics of any relationship:
1. Space + pause before engaging is the beginning of new boundaries. Take your time. Sit with things. 
2. Other people have a right to feel however they wish during the process. We can see + hear these things, while also holding space for what things brings up within us.
3. Difficult conversations take a ton of emotional energy. Rest + self nourishing are necessary during the process.
4. Pay attention to your physical body. Relationships heal, AND they bring up unresolved trauma to the surface. A clenched jaw, an upset stomach, a tight chest is the body’s way of speaking this.
5. The ego will tell tons of stories: “they should do x” “I should do x” Not all of your thoughts need your attention. Practice observing #selfhealers
  • For those of you who’ve been following for a while, you know I’ve been distanced from my family. I was on a deep healing journey + for many reasons, I needed space away from those dynamics.

    This was incredibly difficult for everyone involved. Choosing myself + honoring my own needs brought up a ton of my “selfish” programming. It felt like a betrayal + freedom at the same time.

    The past few months, we’ve been reconnecting. All in a space of family therapy. It’s been a space to begin re-creating the relationship. A space that I’m aware not everyone has access to, so I wanted to create this post to share my own process.

    As I do this work, I’m seeing just how strong my patterns are. I’m seeing just how much of my conditioning is to smile + nod. To tend to (most of all) my mothers feelings. Going slowly + observing is key as the pull to the familiar is very real.

    When healing, all of our relationships shift + change. We are more aware of our needs, we begin to prioritize self care. We say “no” rather than engaging in chronic people pleasing. This will cause pain because who we are as a human has shifted. It’s to be expected. People know us one way + expect us to engage in the ways that we always have.

    Things to remember has you re-create the dynamics of any relationship:
    1. Space + pause before engaging is the beginning of new boundaries. Take your time. Sit with things.
    2. Other people have a right to feel however they wish during the process. We can see + hear these things, while also holding space for what things brings up within us.
    3. Difficult conversations take a ton of emotional energy. Rest + self nourishing are necessary during the process.
    4. Pay attention to your physical body. Relationships heal, AND they bring up unresolved trauma to the surface. A clenched jaw, an upset stomach, a tight chest is the body’s way of speaking this.
    5. The ego will tell tons of stories: “they should do x” “I should do x” Not all of your thoughts need your attention. Practice observing #selfhealers

  •  47,034  658  8 hours ago
  • At the root of childhood trauma is not being seen, heard, or able to authentically express oneself.

Without parents/caretakers who show us how to emotionally regulate (process difficult emotions + how express our needs then get them met, we begin to cope through taking on different roles.

These roles become unconscious manifestations of our childhood experience.

The caretaker: typically comes from codependency/enmeshment dynamics. Feels a sense of identity + self worth through neglecting ones own needs to meet another persons. Views others as a means to feel wanted.

The overachiever: attempts to seen, heard + valued through external achievement as a way to cope with low self worth. Views others as a way to source self esteem.

The underachiever: attempts to stay small/unseen/below authentic potential due to fear of criticism or shame that was once experienced. Views others as threatening + distrusting.

The rescuer/protector: ferociously attempts to rescue or protect those around them as an attempt to heal from the time that they were vulnerable + in need of protection. Views others as helpless, incapable, + dependent.

The life of the party: the always happy/always cheerful comedic person. Never shows pain. Never vulnerable. Was likely shamed for their emotional state in childhood. Views others as a way to demonstrate that they are ok.

The always available one: drops everything nearly 24/7. Neglects all needs. Was modeled “self sacrifice” + codependency patterning. Views others as a way to demonstrate they’re both good + selfless.

The hero worshiper: has childhood wounding from caregivers that has not been resolved. Views parents/family as super human, “perfect,” + without fault. Rejects needs, desires, + autonomy to fulfill family system role. Views others as a way to show what perfection looks like.

Any resonate? #selfhealers
  • At the root of childhood trauma is not being seen, heard, or able to authentically express oneself.

    Without parents/caretakers who show us how to emotionally regulate (process difficult emotions + how express our needs then get them met, we begin to cope through taking on different roles.

    These roles become unconscious manifestations of our childhood experience.

    The caretaker: typically comes from codependency/enmeshment dynamics. Feels a sense of identity + self worth through neglecting ones own needs to meet another persons. Views others as a means to feel wanted.

    The overachiever: attempts to seen, heard + valued through external achievement as a way to cope with low self worth. Views others as a way to source self esteem.

    The underachiever: attempts to stay small/unseen/below authentic potential due to fear of criticism or shame that was once experienced. Views others as threatening + distrusting.

    The rescuer/protector: ferociously attempts to rescue or protect those around them as an attempt to heal from the time that they were vulnerable + in need of protection. Views others as helpless, incapable, + dependent.

    The life of the party: the always happy/always cheerful comedic person. Never shows pain. Never vulnerable. Was likely shamed for their emotional state in childhood. Views others as a way to demonstrate that they are ok.

    The always available one: drops everything nearly 24/7. Neglects all needs. Was modeled “self sacrifice” + codependency patterning. Views others as a way to demonstrate they’re both good + selfless.

    The hero worshiper: has childhood wounding from caregivers that has not been resolved. Views parents/family as super human, “perfect,” + without fault. Rejects needs, desires, + autonomy to fulfill family system role. Views others as a way to show what perfection looks like.

    Any resonate? #selfhealers

  •  67,077  2,013  21 May, 2020
  • One of our great collective addictions is the addiction to chaos. We’re conditioned in these environments from childhood. So, our unconscious mind + trauma body is always seeking it to feel at “home.” We seek the familiar, all humans do.

Chaos is really a blanket term for feeling activated. Emotionally activated. Physically activated. A chemical response in the body we can become dependent on. It can involve gossip, drama, uncertainty, + judgement. Our entertainment is created around it. Our music. It’s so normal to us, if we aren’t conscious, we may not be aware of the hold it has on us.

Chaos is the ultimate distraction from ourselves. From our own shadow + ego. From our own unresolved trauma. We get to feel “alive” while at the same time we get to avoid our pain. The perfect coping mechanism.

At our core, most of us are so deeply disconnected from ourselves + others. We are so desperate for connection that most of our relationships are found within that familiar chaos.

As we evolve + become conscious we have awareness around our own patterns + behavior or unconsciously seeking this familiar.

Then, we have to practice. Intensely practice. My future self journal practice has involved being peace for over 2 years. And I’ll be the first to admit that it feels boring, dull, + unfamiliar before it begins to feel like freedom. I’ve used the mantra “I choose peace instead of this” more times than I can count.

Healing from this cycle of emotional addiction allows us to regain the skill of consciously placing our awareness on things we choose. This is where our power lies.

Once we have the skill of placing our awareness where we choose, we have access to new responses. Or no responses at all. When our peace is a priority, we show up differently. 
From a space of clarity. And love. And lack of resentment.

Chaos is home, until we choose to move. You are worthy of peace, but you’ll need to practice #selfhealers
  • One of our great collective addictions is the addiction to chaos. We’re conditioned in these environments from childhood. So, our unconscious mind + trauma body is always seeking it to feel at “home.” We seek the familiar, all humans do.

    Chaos is really a blanket term for feeling activated. Emotionally activated. Physically activated. A chemical response in the body we can become dependent on. It can involve gossip, drama, uncertainty, + judgement. Our entertainment is created around it. Our music. It’s so normal to us, if we aren’t conscious, we may not be aware of the hold it has on us.

    Chaos is the ultimate distraction from ourselves. From our own shadow + ego. From our own unresolved trauma. We get to feel “alive” while at the same time we get to avoid our pain. The perfect coping mechanism.

    At our core, most of us are so deeply disconnected from ourselves + others. We are so desperate for connection that most of our relationships are found within that familiar chaos.

    As we evolve + become conscious we have awareness around our own patterns + behavior or unconsciously seeking this familiar.

    Then, we have to practice. Intensely practice. My future self journal practice has involved being peace for over 2 years. And I’ll be the first to admit that it feels boring, dull, + unfamiliar before it begins to feel like freedom. I’ve used the mantra “I choose peace instead of this” more times than I can count.

    Healing from this cycle of emotional addiction allows us to regain the skill of consciously placing our awareness on things we choose. This is where our power lies.

    Once we have the skill of placing our awareness where we choose, we have access to new responses. Or no responses at all. When our peace is a priority, we show up differently.
    From a space of clarity. And love. And lack of resentment.

    Chaos is home, until we choose to move. You are worthy of peace, but you’ll need to practice #selfhealers

  •  47,744  829  22 May, 2020
  • Anger is a human emotion. And like all emotions, it can give us direction and clarity. It’s not inherently good or bad. We get these messages, even from some therapists, that feeling anger is okay, but showing you are angry is not. There are some messages that even feeling angry is not okay! Some of us respond by walling ourselves off from our anger. If you grew up in a home where anger meant violence and chaos, it makes sense to try to distance yourself from anger. I want you to hear that showing your anger is not weakness, immaturity, or violence. As a therapist, my work is less about containing anger and more about recognizing and honouring its message. Of course, with anger, there is often also vulnerability, grief, sadness. I want to honour that too. But I believe it’s a mistake to move too quickly to put anger away and look at the other stuff. Anger gives people fierce clarity about abuse, injustice, and violation of boundaries. It says “that was not okay”. It motivates us to make it known. To push for something different. When we cut ourselves off from our anger, we lose out on its medicine. We cut ourselves off from our aliveness. I honour your anger. I encourage you express yourself in your wholeness and your humanness— with the people and within the places it is safe enough to do so. 
#emotionalwellbeing #boundaries #healthyboundaries #assertiveness #embodiment #selfcompassion #highlysensitiveperson #feelyourfeelings #takeupspace #selfexpression
  • Anger is a human emotion. And like all emotions, it can give us direction and clarity. It’s not inherently good or bad. We get these messages, even from some therapists, that feeling anger is okay, but showing you are angry is not. There are some messages that even feeling angry is not okay! Some of us respond by walling ourselves off from our anger. If you grew up in a home where anger meant violence and chaos, it makes sense to try to distance yourself from anger. I want you to hear that showing your anger is not weakness, immaturity, or violence. As a therapist, my work is less about containing anger and more about recognizing and honouring its message. Of course, with anger, there is often also vulnerability, grief, sadness. I want to honour that too. But I believe it’s a mistake to move too quickly to put anger away and look at the other stuff. Anger gives people fierce clarity about abuse, injustice, and violation of boundaries. It says “that was not okay”. It motivates us to make it known. To push for something different. When we cut ourselves off from our anger, we lose out on its medicine. We cut ourselves off from our aliveness. I honour your anger. I encourage you express yourself in your wholeness and your humanness— with the people and within the places it is safe enough to do so.
    #emotionalwellbeing #boundaries #healthyboundaries #assertiveness #embodiment #selfcompassion #highlysensitiveperson #feelyourfeelings #takeupspace #selfexpression

  •  7,467  109  21 May, 2020
  • On the very first day of our family isolating, Chris made a to-do list of chores for the kids and at the bottom of the notepad that it was written on, was this quote and he circled it. For the past 2 months, I have kept it pinned to the wall in my office. It’s a daily reminder that challenges make life meaningful.

I don’t know what challenges you’re facing right now, but I want you to imagine how incredible and meaningful it’s going to feel to come out the other side of this. Damn, won’t a normal dinner out with family or just a hug with a friend going to feel so freaking awesome?

It hasn’t been easy, but these last 2 months have certainly brought my family a hell of a lot closer. It’s made me appreciate so many things that I took for granted and inspired me to make some big changes, especially in my career (you’ll see soon 😉). It’s easy to bitch about why this is challenging, but I want you to take a moment and reflect on what you’ve learned in these past 2 months. Then describe in the comments how it’s created deeper meaning in your life.
  • On the very first day of our family isolating, Chris made a to-do list of chores for the kids and at the bottom of the notepad that it was written on, was this quote and he circled it. For the past 2 months, I have kept it pinned to the wall in my office. It’s a daily reminder that challenges make life meaningful.

    I don’t know what challenges you’re facing right now, but I want you to imagine how incredible and meaningful it’s going to feel to come out the other side of this. Damn, won’t a normal dinner out with family or just a hug with a friend going to feel so freaking awesome?

    It hasn’t been easy, but these last 2 months have certainly brought my family a hell of a lot closer. It’s made me appreciate so many things that I took for granted and inspired me to make some big changes, especially in my career (you’ll see soon 😉). It’s easy to bitch about why this is challenging, but I want you to take a moment and reflect on what you’ve learned in these past 2 months. Then describe in the comments how it’s created deeper meaning in your life.

  •  16,412  272  23 May, 2020
  • Stop giving other people the 🔑 to your happiness.

A new relationship would be fun, but it’s not going to heal you because healing requires you to tune out everyone else so you can hear the most important voice in the world, your own.
  • Stop giving other people the 🔑 to your happiness.

    A new relationship would be fun, but it’s not going to heal you because healing requires you to tune out everyone else so you can hear the most important voice in the world, your own.

  •  31,273  591  20 May, 2020
  • The only person you need to hear it from is yourself. Give yourself a ❤️ in the comments if you agree!
  • The only person you need to hear it from is yourself. Give yourself a ❤️ in the comments if you agree!

  •  18,158  613  22 May, 2020
  • ✨ Motherhood is SO wild 😭🤯 💃🏽✨⁠
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graphic by @common_wild
  • ✨ Motherhood is SO wild 😭🤯 💃🏽✨⁠
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    graphic by @common_wild

  •  1,479  87  24 May, 2020
  • Trust and believe in yourself and your life completely. Sleep well. 🧡
  • Trust and believe in yourself and your life completely. Sleep well. 🧡

  •  14,218  160  24 May, 2020